The night that paralyzing stomach pains
kept me up until 3am, my mom called the ER.
Surprisingly, the on call nurse set me up with an appointment with my busy surgeon
for the very next morning. I thought I
would see someone from his team, and was surprised that the appointment was
with him. I was accustomed to the fact
that he had a gruff, blunt, demeanor, but occasionally he liked to tell
jokes. This time though, he seemed
largely inconvenienced that I was taking up his precious time.
"I got paged at
3am," he said. "There is
absolutely nothing I can do for you, you know."
"Nothing?" I said,
as I couldn't stop the tears. I was
exhausted and run down and could not hold my emotions in check.
He continued: "You know everything we do for you can
either help you or harm you."
I laid on the patient table
and just silently sobbed. Well, this
is a productive appointment, I thought.
And then it got even better.
A couple of weeks back, just
a week out of surgery, I had asked him what he thought about me flying to Idaho
in a month's time for my BYU-Idaho conference, which I was invited to speak at
on the topic of leadership and adversity.
He said that it would probably be alright, but that we would see how I
was doing. Without any questions from me, he said as he was leaving,
"Oh, and by the way, I
don't recommend you go on that trip.
That speech you want to give just isn't that important."
Well, who was he to tell me
what was and what was not important in my life? At that point, I resolved that I would write my talk and I would make
that trip. Mom wasn't too keen on the idea either as she was worried about me straining myself at a critical period of my recovery, but I was
determined. Carl also resolved that he
and the girls wanted to hear my talk, so they would drive and because I
couldn't be in a car for 16 hours, I would take the flight to Idaho Falls which
BYU-Idaho offered.
When it came time to go, I
was unsure I would be able to go on the plane until the day of. I had set up a contingency plan, with a
pre-recorded talk through google hangout, but the technical aspect wasn't
great, so I knew I just wanted to be there.
I barely felt well enough to pack my suitcase and pack the girls'
suitcases, but thankfully I had some help. Because my flight left at 6am on a
Tuesday, I was going to spend the night at my in-laws Monday so and they would take me to the airport as Carl
would need to begin the road trip with the girls on Monday. We were having a major heatwave in San
Diego at the time and my in-laws, who don't have air conditioning generously
offered to put me up at the Holiday Inn so that the heat would not make me
sicker.
Both the flight from San
Diego to Salt Lake and from Salt Lake to Idaho Falls passed without major
incident and I made it to Rexburg in one piece. Amazingly, I was a lot more
nervous about getting sick than actually delivering my talk to an audience of
200 people. I was presenting with my
friend, Kim, who had also served with me on BYU-I's management team and was
also suffering with some help problems.
In addition to many cherished colleagues and friends whom I had worked
with for the past 6 years, my parents, Carl and the girls, Aunt Pam and Uncle
Rich, Grandma, and 3 of my Blackham cousins who were students at BYU-I, Josh,
Jessi, and Corey were in the audience.
It felt great to be able to
share my story and to connect with many in the audience on a personal
level. Here is a video of the
presentation. My part begins at about 25
minutes, but I would also highly recommend listening to my friend, Kim's presentation:
In addition to being able to
give that address, it was healing to be surrounded by such positive energy at
the faculty conference. Here are a few
pictures with some of my great friends, most of whom I've worked with for at least 5 years. Many have been following me and have been so amazingly supportive with texts, calls, cards, gifts, prayers, and fasting.
As I reflected on how healing the trip was, it came to mind that although I need to heed my doctors in some things, that I know what's best for me more than anyone else, and that it is possible that I can heal myself.
I agree. So healing. So blessed to be in your "handcart company."
ReplyDeleteOnce again, thank you for sharing. I watched the video presentation you and Kim Parry gave...uplifting and motivating...both of you. Thank you so much.
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